Are You Leaving Your Marriage?

Leaving a marriage is one of the most difficult decisions anyone can make. Most people who leave a marriage think about doing it years before they actually take action. Living with this inner conflict creates a high state of stress and can affect all aspects of one’s life. Leaving a marriage is no simple task. You are not just leaving the institution of marriage or your role as husband or wife. You are leaving a lifestyle, an identity, family, and your financial security among many other things. This is a great responsibility often accompanied by incredible feelings of confusion and guilt.

With so much at stake, it is no wonder that many people in this position become frozen in a state of ambivalence. This place of being stuck most often stems from a variety of fears both real and imagined. Here are some of the more common fears experienced by people who are contemplating leaving their marriage:

• Financial Strain
• Harming children
• Managing the household alone
• Making the wrong choices
• Being disliked by extended family and friends
• Parenting alone
• Retaliation from the other spouse
• Being alone
• Dating

When one partner decides to divorce, it is often presumed (by themselves and by others) that they have “thrown in the towel” or failed in some way. While this may be true in some cases, more often than not, for many people, marriage has become so incredibly bad that divorce feels like the only viable option. However, there are also many married people who just aren’t sure and want to explore all of their options before making a decision.

We don’t want you to end up wasting years of your life living in indecision or staying in what you feel is probably an un-salvageable marriage. Getting the proper professional support as you move toward leaving can make all the difference in the negative impact this decision will have on everyone around you.

Here’s how Divorce Detox™ can help:

Strategy: We will strategize with you about how to leave your marriage with the greatest integrity and minimal damage possible. While the process is inevitably painful, there are definitely “better” ways to leave.

Delivery: We will help you find the best way to tell your spouse about your leaving. This will be one of the hardest parts of ending your marriage, but understanding your spouses experience of this will help you minimize unnecessary heartbreak.

Preparation: We will help you tend to the practical aspects of leaving a marriage. This includes getting finances in order, finding a place to live and/or consulting with an attorney. Being prepared and having realistic expectations about the process will help you in both the short and long term.

Healing: We will work with you on managing the myriad of feelings you are experiencing so you can be in your best emotional game when you are dealing with the aftermath of leaving. It’s hard to predict what you will be facing, but we want you to be in the best possible position to deal with things.

How We Work With You:

Your first appointment will include a thorough assessment of your current circumstances. We do this through the use of structured interview specifically designed for individuals leaving a marriage. After the first appointment we will continue to meet with you 1-2 times per week with a minimum of 8 meetings. Our work is time-limited meaning we do not see open ended ongoing therapy as being productive. As a result, we will work with you to set goals and to meet them for the most effective and efficient results.